Monday, October 31, 2011

Is that what I think it is!?!

So last Wednesday was an interesting night for me.  I was trying to fall asleep, but was doing my hour long ritual of tossing and turning.  I finally landed on my stomach (will be so sad when I can't sleep on my tummy anymore) and got super comfy.  All of the sudden I felt something really weird.

I can't even begin to properly describe what it was.  It def wasn't gas, the feeling was too high.  It wasn't nausea, too low.  It didn't feel like butterflies.  It kind of felt like liquid swooshing around in my stomach.  And not even that really describes what it was like.  I had a hunch of what it might be, but didn't want to get my hopes up.

The next morning I did a bit of research and also reached out to the ladies on my Baby Center Birth Club.  It turns out my initial instinct was right; I FELT THE BABY MOVE!!!!!!  I wasn't expecting to feel the baby so early on, and probably wouldn't have felt it if I wasn't on my stomach.  But I got to and it was amazing.  Just one more thing to make this whole experience that much more real.  I'm interested to see how the first kick is gonna feel like.

Short and simple entry today.  But also just wanted to say one final thing...


                 !!!!HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

50/50

As the horrors of the first trimester begin to wane (notice I said "begin to."  Yes, it's still going on.)  I am starting to get a bit more excited about being a mom.  It's weird to actually think of myself in those terms still, but I'm warming up to it.  I find myself talking to the baby sometimes, totally by accident. And sometimes I randomly hug my stomach because I just get really excited about being pregnant.

I haven't really gotten emotional about being a mom, that is, up until this Sunday.  Sunday night the hubby and I decided to go to the movies because we haven't been in a minute.  We went to go see 50/50, a dramatic comedy starring Joseph Gordon Levitt and Seth Rogen.  I'm a fan of both, so I thought it might be cool to see. 

It's a pretty cute/saddish movie about a young man (Levitt) who gets diagnosed with spinal cancer at the age of 27, and his journey in dealing with that.  Even though Levitt and Rogen had great chemistry, I couldn't stop watching Angelica Houston, who I have had a total crush on since back in the Addams Family days. 

Ms. Houston plays Levitt's mom, who is also the wife of an Alzheimer's patient.  She is very concerned and protective of her son, but not in such an overbearing way that you want to stab her in the face.  Unfortunately for her, her son really doesn't want anything to do with her because she is "annoying."  As Levitt continuously pushes her away, you see her pain but respect her for not pushing him too hard.  One of the characters in the movies so wittingly says to Levitt "Wow.  She has a husband that can't talk to her, and a son that won't.  You're kind of a dick."

There was one scene that hit me particularly hard.  She visits her son in the hospital, and sees him rolled away as he goes into a surgery.  And in my head, I thought "that could be the last time she ever sees him.  That could be her last image of him."  And I started bawling.  Not even my most nauseous day had me clutching my stomach so tight.

What was weird was I was not experiencing any kind of regret in having a child because they might get cancer.  Rather, I was sadly overjoyed that I had the opportunity of feeling that much loving pain if I ever lost my child in that way.  I can only imagine that it is one of the most unique feelings in the world, and truly a gift.  I know...it sounds a bit morbid.  But its kinda like one of those "I would rather have loved and lost than never loved at all" type feelings.  And regardless of its morbidity, I feel very grateful that I will be able to experience that kind of love for another human being.

Friday, October 14, 2011

First pre-natal yoga class

My usual yoga classes:  I go to a real awesome place called Yoga Vida.  (www.yogavida.com).  Their vinyasa classes are super affordable which is pretty rock star.  I'm definitely not the type of person that can do the meditative style of yoga.  I get lost in my own head.  Vinyasa is more about the transition from one position into another.  So its very fluid and mostly constantly moving.  It gives you a great workout.  Then the last 10 minutes are used as the more relaxation/meditative time.

My expectations of pre-natal yoga:  I assumed that since preggo women don't have much mobility or balance, that they would spend more time just sitting and meditating.  It made me a little nervous because the class was an hour and a half long (my usual yoga classes are an hour) and that just seemed like a ridiculously long time to be at one with myself.  I thought I was just going to sit in a room with a bunch of preggos listening to them huff and puff and rub up on their bellies.  I wasn't totally down with that.

How it actually went:  It wasn't too bad!  I was the smallest person there.  Most of the ladies were at least 20 weeks, but mostly more.  They were so plump and cute. :-)  A couple of them kept looking at me smiling.  I couldn't tell if it was "aw, how cute, she doesn't know what she's in for" or if they were just acknowledging that I'm at the beginning of my journey and they were in my shoes not too long ago.  I'm gonna go with the latter. 

The first 30 minutes was spent on introductions and a reading.  Each woman introduced herself, how far along she was, and any issues she was having physically for the week.  The yoga instructor then read this passage from a book (which I have to get the name of) about sphincters.  Yeah, that word is gross.  But it was actually interesting learning about sphincters, which I found out is ANY muscle that operates more independently and doesn't function completely by the brain.  So for women it would be your butt hole (obvi) and your vajayjay.  Sometimes those muscles just start doing things no matter how hard you try to get them to stop.  Like pushing out a baby! 

Then we got into the yoga portion.  It wasn't as intense as the vinyasa that I'm used to, but it was still great.  We did some various warrior poses and leg stretches and such.  The relaxation portion was longer than usual, and we laid on our sides with a pillow between our legs.

I didn't mind the relaxation part at first, but it definitely went on longer than my brain could handle.  I started thinking about my best friend from college, who I just found out is also pregnant and due a week before me.  She lives about 6 hours away though.  Then I started thinking about my family, they live 4 hours away.  And I started to realize how badly I actually miss them and how much I hate that they are all so far away.  I have definitely made great friends in NYC.  And Michael's family is super great.  But sometimes this experience of being pregnant feels so lonely.  Not because I don't have people around me to love and support me, but because the people who have watched me grow physically and emotionally as a person aren't getting to see this humongous step/change in my life.  I wish I had more time to go see them, but thus is the life of a working mom.

So, as expected, I started to tear up.  Luckily I wasn't facing anyone (I effing hate crying in front of people, and it seems to be happening more often) and I had a nice lil cry to myself.  It didn't make it any better that my nausea is still pretty crazy, so all the movement of the yoga class was making me ill. 

Overall, it was a great experience.  It was nice to be in a room with women going through similar experiences.  It felt like I was part of a group that was way bigger than myself; pun kind of intended.  It's going to be a little while before I go back because my nausea has been getting really bad the last two weeks.  But I'm ready to get back and join my fellow bendy, plump mommas to be.

Saturday, October 1, 2011

WHAT IS THAT!?!?!

One thing that I am unbelievably terrified of is giving birth.  I am fully aware that billions of women have done it before me and have survived.  But I have a constant fear that its going to be so unbelievably painful that I might just die.  I think the fear stems somewhere from never having broken anything, sprained anything, gotten any kind of surgery, nothing.

It just so happens that BabyCenter (www.babycenter.com) was featuring live birthing videos.  Now being the educated woman I am, I thought watching these videos would give me a better understanding of what actually happens during birth and make me feel more empowered about the whole process.  The end result was be practically dry heaving and having to lay in bed for about an hour until the nausea went away.

Video #1- Epidurals
 
First of all, this labor seemed totally unusual.  This looked like the most perfect situation that could ever happen and I don't want to get sucked in to thinking this is how it will be.  Regardless, when the baby started to come out I thought I was watching Ace Ventura and Jim Carrey was coming out of the fake rhino.  I was so horrified by the elasticity of this woman's vagina that I was subconsciously grabbing my own like I was apologizing to it in advance.  Its a horrifying scene.
 
Video #2- Natural Birth
 
Hell to the eff no.  Never.  Ever.  No.  Granted, this woman's birth was only about 5 hours.  But between the writhing around on the bed, pounding on the wall, and looking like she was being possessed, the idea of the pure agony really turned me off.  The only thing that looked appealing is that she got to lay in a comfy king size bed. 
 
Video #3- Cesarean
 
This is the way I always thought I would go.  Get numbed up.  Can totally plan for it.  But after watching this, I'm not so sure.  I have heard a lot of awful things about the healing process.  But seeing that baby literally being dragged out of her whole entire abdomen...gross.  I'm not sure what I was expecting, but what I saw, it just doesn't look like my body should be doing that.  But I could say the same for the others above as well.
 
I'm probably gonna stick with the good ol' epidural delivery, but am not too psyched about it.  I'm hoping, somehow, in the next 6 months I just come to terms with it.  Whatever happens, happens....right?